HOW
ABOUT LOVE?
March 5, 2006
John M. Buchanan
Pastor,
Fourth Presbyterian Church
Psalm 25:1–10
Genesis 9:8–17
Mark 1:9–15
“Be mindful of your mercy, O Lord,
and of your steadfast love,
for they have been from of old.
Psalm 25:6 (NRSV)
Eternal God, our Father, praise be to
you
for your unwavering goodness to your children:
for mercies that fall like rain on the just and the unjust;
for words that find us in our seasons of not-knowing;
for songs your love has taught our hearts to sing;
for coincidental happenings which, viewed in retrospect,
speak of your gentle leading and your care;
for good memories and true hopes, and every thought of
you.
Ernest T. Campbell
Where Cross the Crowded Ways: Prayers of a City Pastor
Dear God, as we begin our Lenten journey again,
silence in us any voice but your own.
And startle us again with your steadfast love
in Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.
During
a memorial service for a young woman—wife, mother,
with a successful career, who died decades before she should
have—several of her friends came forward, one at
a time, and delivered reminiscences and reflections on
her
life. They said she loved life, loved her husband, loved
her children, loved her job. They said she loved her garden
and her friends and her church. One of them departed from
the norm, came to the lectern and said,
525,600
minutes, moments so dear,
525,600 minutes, how do you measure, measure a year?
How about love?
How do you measure the life of a woman or a man?
How about love?
It’s from Rent, the Broadway musical
and motion picture. The cast is a company of young adults,
living on the Lower
East Side of Manhattan, each struggling to make it, to
survive as musicians, composers, dancers, social activists,
struggling
to find out what life is all about and to pay the rent.
Several of them have HIV/AIDS. One in particular, Angel,
is very
sick. Several of them attend an HIV/AIDs support group.
Sitting in a circle in an empty community center gym,
reflecting
on the future and what it will mean for them, one young
man quietly asks, “Will I lose my dignity? Will
someone care?”
It’s a brave and poignant story of people living with
a fairly high degree of alienation—from families, from
society at large, hanging on to one another for support,
friendship, encouragement, love. They are family. On occasion
they even become something like church for one another. They
ask, for themselves and for all of us, “Will someone
care?” And they sing, “How do you measure a life?
How about love?”
And so we begin the Lenten season, the somber season
before Holy Week—Palm Sunday, Maundy Thursday, Good Friday—and
Easter, Resurrection Day. It is a time when Christians remember
the great story of Jesus and his love and turn inward and
reflect and self examine. It begins, for many, with the imposition
of ashes, a liturgical reminder of human mortality. Traditionally
Lent has been a time for penitence, confession, repentance.
And I propose that you and I begin this journey, this year,
slightly differently, by pondering the gift of love—God’s
love and the love God’s love awakens in human hearts.
How about love?
The suggestion is made by the psalmist. Whoever is
speaking in Psalm 25, which we read together this morning,
knows
what it means to be alienated and alone:
O
my God, in you I trust;
do not let me be put to shame;
do not let my enemies exult over me.
Whoever
is speaking here knows what it feels like to fail, to be
fired,
let go, downsized, rejected,
dumped,
cut off.
Whoever is speaking here has done something he
or she is not particularly proud of, something
that
he cannot
forget
and that he fears may have somehow forever destroyed
or at least damaged his standing with God.
“Do not remember the sins of my youth
or my transgressions,” he
prays.
The redeeming thing about this writer, however,
is that someone has told him a secret: God’s anger doesn’t last
forever. As a matter of fact, the basic character of God
is not what he and all of us suspect—a remote judge
who evaluates our character and behavior and metes out appropriate
blessings or punishment. No, the fundamental character of
God is “steadfast love.”
“According to your steadfast love remember
me,” he writes. “All
the paths of the Lord are steadfast love and faithfulness.”
It’s a wonderful Hebrew word, chesed, that is translated “steadfast
love.” It occurs no fewer than 180 times in the Bible,
always about God. It means mercy, compassion. It comes from
the Hebrew word for womb. It is like a mother’s unconditional,
unrelenting, indestructible, fierce love for her child. It
is a love that will never give up, a love that will follow
and pursue and understand and forgive and reclaim a lost
child no matter where he goes, no matter what she has done.
Suddenly, everything is different. If there is
guilt, now it is not because a rule has been broken
but
because God
has been disappointed. God’s steadfast love has been
betrayed. If there is confession and repentance, it is because
God’s steadfast love invites us to be confident about
God’s forgiveness and loving embrace. If there is alienation
and isolation and the dryness of the desert about our lives,
there is an announcement—that we are not alone, that
even if everyone else in the world has abandoned us and given
up on us, God has not. God will not.
It is the very best news. The steadfast love of
God.
Pope Benedict issued his first papal encyclical
a month ago and surprised everybody. Everybody
expected
former
Cardinal
Ratzinger, the conservative enforcer of Catholic
orthodoxy, to say something about “the dictatorship of relativity,” which
sounded to many of us like an attack on people we admire
and respect in the church. Everyone expected an attack on
the sins of modernity, or at the very least a rehearsal of
the hot-button issues like contraception, abortion, and same-sex
marriage. Instead, the pope surprised everybody with “Deus
Caritas Est,” “God Is Love.”
At first the press concluded that the pope chose
a “soft” topic
because he wanted to avoid controversy early in his tenure.
But Peter Steinfels of the New York Times dug into the document
and concluded that the pope said exactly what any Christian
spokesperson ought to say, said what the world so desperately
needs to hear today—namely that at the heart of the
Christian religion, at the center of the Judeo-Christian
tradition, is an idea so unique, so stunning, that for centuries
most people have not been able to believe it: namely that
at the heart of God is not anger, judgment, punishment, righteous
indignation, but steadfast love.
Steinfels dug deeper still. The pope’s encyclical was
not a sentimental valentine—“All you need is
love,” he wrote—but an affirmation of the most
astonishing idea, namely that “love is the primordial
creative power that moves the universe,” an “affirmation
of the closing lines of Dante’s Divine
Comedy: ‘the
love that moves the sun and stars.’”
The importance of what the pope said, and this
central concept of our faith, is punctuated by
its absence
in the increasingly
violent and ugly world of religion and politics.
People are genuinely afraid of religious intolerance.
People
are increasingly
fearful of religion that insists that it has truth,
the only truth, and that therefore those who do
not agree
are enemies
of truth and enemies of God. 9/11 was at least
partly a result of that way of thinking. People
are genuinely
afraid
of religious
intolerance and for good reason. A bombed Shiite
mosque and hundreds of revenge killings are a reminder
of
the potential
for evil inherent in any religion that tolerates
no difference, no diversity, no doubts or questions.
Islam, however, has no monopoly on potentially
violent fundamentalism. A Baptist minister from
Kansas, Fred
Phelps, and his family
travel all over the country demonstrating, picketing,
screaming hurtful insults at families of servicemen
killed in Iraq. “God
hates America” they scream at grieving families, because
of what Phelps and his family think is moral laxity and sexual
impurity. And Falwell and Robertson can be counted on to
attribute public suffering and tragedy from natural disaster
as God’s punishment for sin.
The matter of the cartoons published first in a
Danish newspaper, lampooning the Prophet Muhammad,
is still
much in the news,
prompting continuing outrage and violence in the
Islamic world and self-righteous lecturing on freedom
of the
press in the Western world.
The most helpful thing I read, however, was not
by the national commentators on either side, but
by
a young
Muslim man by
the name of Eboo Patel. He is Executive Director
of a remarkable project here in Chicago called
the Interfaith
Youth Core,
an effort to bring together for fun, study, discussion,
and service projects, Jewish, Christian, and Muslim
young
people.
Our own Senior Highs participated in a program
recently around Martin Luther King’s birthday.
In the aftermath of the cartoon incident, Eboo
issued a statement:
“Do
you believe in free speech?” people ask me.
“To
the teeth,” I
respond.
“Do you think that some sources in the West
deliberately distort Islam?” they prod.
“Absolutely,” I tell them
“Are you hurt by the ridiculing
of the Prophet in mainstream newspapers?” some wonder.
“Deep in my heart,” I say.
They
immediately dichotomize the discussion—Western
values vs. Muslim values, free speech vs.
cultural sensitivity. They push to the point of polarization
and then demand that
I pick one side.
That,
Eboo contends, plays right into the hands of those who
are determined that we
have a
war of civilizations,
both Muslim and Western. “Both sides
wrap themselves in principle and sharpen their
spears.”
Eboo condemns newspapers in the Arab and
Muslim world that demonize Jews and defile
Jewish
sacred symbols.
But there
was a missed opportunity for Jewish and Christian
leaders in the West to say what an evangelical
Christian friend
of his said to him: “I remember how deeply hurt I was
a few years ago by art that desecrated Christian symbols.
I think I know how Muslims feel about this. I want to tell
them I wish they hadn’t been hurt.”
No treatise on free speech. No lecture. Just
a simple statement that it hurts when your
precious symbols
are defiled and
your prophet, your savior, your God, demeaned.
How about love?
This is no sentimental valentine. This is
not to say that it doesn’t matter how we live because God loves us
anyhow. This is not a moral relativism that results from
concluding that God doesn’t care what we do or do not
do. Quite the opposite. This is to say that God loves so
unconditionally and passionately that nothing we do can stop
God from loving. Nothing we can say or do will cause God
to give up on us. There is nowhere we can go that God will
not pursue us, relentlessly. When we stray, when we disobey,
when we rebel, when we simply ignore God and God’s
will, God doesn’t get angry so much as
grieves, just like a mother or father is heartbroken
and weeps when a child
strays from home. But God does not and will
not give up, will not stop loving us, will
not stop trying to bring us
home.
Huston Smith is a scholar of world religions
and a Christian. He has written a book the
critics think is an important
one: The Soul of Christianity: Restoring
the Great
Tradition. He observes that the people who
heard Jesus’ disciples
proclaiming Good News were impressed as much by what they
saw as by the word they heard. Jesus’ followers
had been transformed, changed by something.
They were new people.
Smith concludes that it was love that did
it, “God’s
love was precisely what the first Christians did feel. They
had experienced Jesus’ love and became
convinced that Jesus was God incarnate. Once
that love reached them it could
not be stopped.”
Smith goes on to propose that just as the
power hidden in the atom is only released
by bombardment
from
without, so
the love planted by God in every human soul
is released and activated and called out
by love’s bombardment. What
a fascinating thought. What a life-changing,
world-changing idea!
A loving human being, Smith says, “is
not produced by exhortations, rules, or threats.
Love takes root in children
only when it comes to them.”
I have been blessed to be around children
all my adult life. I am blessed now to
have grandchildren,
an abundance
of them.
I experience blessings on the second Sunday
of each month, to administer the sacrament
of Baptism
on
your behalf,
to hold the babies and remind them and
us that they are loved
by an everlasting and unconditional love
that will
never change. “You belong to Jesus Christ forever,” I
am blessed to tell them.
There is a great moment when the connection
of love happens. You can’t just say to a baby “I’m glad
you’re here and I like you a lot” and
hope he or she understands. So we whistle and
make funny noises and
sing songs, and talk baby talk, hoping for
some response.
Alex is only four months old. So when I see
him I tell him how much I love him and that
I’ll take him to the zoo
and Wrigley Field and buy him a hot dog, which his mother
probably won’t do, and that I hope he’ll grow
up to be a good boy and a Cubs fan. I don’t think he
understands. But every now and then, he furrows his brow
and looks me intently in the eye during my monologue, and
there is a flicker of a smile at first, and then a full smile,
and occasionally a sound, an attempt at a response, a soft
chuckle. He knows, I think, that he’s loved, and quite
spontaneously, quite naturally—because as Huston Smith
said, God put it there—he responds, and
love, his own unique love, is activated and
called out of him.
It is a great moment, and I’ll risk being maudlin by
suggesting that it is a great metaphor for the Divine–human
encounter, God’s steadfast love.
Lent begins somberly, solemnly. Lent begins
with Jesus in the desert, dry, hungry, alone,
maybe
full of doubt
and misgiving
about his own life and his prospects; maybe
full of uncertainty about what he is supposed
to do
next; maybe
tired of
the daily routine of his life, bored; maybe
feeling alienated from his family; maybe
feeling distant
from and impatient
and alienated from God even.
But angels come and minister to him, and
he learns that there is nowhere he can go,
even
the driest,
loneliest desert,
that God’s steadfast love cannot find him and come
to him and embrace him and hold him and then call out of
him his own fierce, unconditional love, his own love that
will take him to the crisis of Good Friday and his cross
and death—still loving, loving to the last, still willing
to live his life, every minute of it, right up to the last
minute, loving his friends, you and me, the whole wide world,
answering God’s steadfast, faithful love.
How can you measure a life?
How about love?
Amen.